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Why would you say these things to a pregnant woman?

September 25, 2014 by Julie 38 Comments

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There’s this one lady at work who every time she sees me in the hall will say things that are quite inappropriate. She doesn’t say them in a rude way, but what she says is not something I feel good hearing. Seriously, why would someone say such things to a pregnant woman?

?Things You Should Never Say To A Pregnant Woman | Fab Working Mom Life?

 

Things you should NEVER say to a pregnant woman

Here’s what I mean:

* You’re due in November? Oh, there’s no way you’ll make it that long as big as you are. [Umm.. so you’re telling me I’ll have a preemie just because I’m big?]

* Are you sure you’re just having one? [Yes, just one, thanks for calling me fat.]


* How much weight have you gained? [SERIOUSLY, WHAT WOMAN ASKS THIS OF ANYONE!!!?????]

* Are you sure you’re having a boy? Did you see a penis on the ultrasound? [OMG since when is my baby’s genitalia any of your business???]

The only acceptable thing to say to a pregnant woman?

Here it is – You. Look. Amazing.

Great. Job. Mama.

That’s it. Don’t say anything else.

Pregnant women are already emotional and some of us are terrified of the reality of our upcoming life changes. Don’t make it worse. Don’t open your mouth and insert foot. Just keep quiet.

Keep your feet planted firmly on the ground and out of your mouth! The pregnant women of the world thank you.

If you’re wondering how to ask a pregnant woman when she is due, wait for her to bring up pregnancy first. Because for all you know, she’s overweight or has a health condition. Do. Not. Assume.

Other thoughts on what not to say to a pregnant woman

I saw this hilarious post on Pregnant Chicken on this very same topic, so I know I’m not alone in receiving such comments.

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You might also enjoy this video with things you shouldn’t say to a pregnant woman, and what you should say instead. Seriously. Avoid foot-in-mouth syndrome, please.

Here’s a fun what not to say to a pregnant woman meme.

What not to say to a pregnant woman — and the 1 thing you absolutely should: http://t.co/cDZvbs2HQM pic.twitter.com/oR9opiayFh

— TODAY (@TODAYshow) May 28, 2015

Have any of my readers been on the receiving end of such remarks? Have you received rude comments during pregnancy?

Feel free to share your worst things said to you while pregnant with me in the comments below, I’d love to read them.

 

 

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  1. Tina says

    January 16, 2016 at 8:33 am

    There were many times I just had to smile and nod to keep from smacking some heads. For the most part, I don’t think people even realize what they are saying 😉

    Reply
    • Julie says

      January 16, 2016 at 2:39 pm

      Yea I guess you’re right, they don’t really think about what they’re saying, and until you’ve been on the receiving end of those kinds of comments you don’t really realize how weird and inappropriate they are

      Reply
  2. Angel says

    October 9, 2014 at 8:14 pm

    Lol I can so relate to these! I just had my 3rd child and I have heard almost all of these! Thank you for joining in at #throwbackthursday !

    Reply
    • Julie says

      October 13, 2014 at 7:12 am

      Oh I can’t imagine continuing to hear this stuff with every pregnancy. People just don’t get it heh.

      Reply
  3. Erica Loop says

    October 9, 2014 at 5:16 pm

    So funny. When I was pregnant I actually had someone (I would say who was more of an acquaintance than a friend) ask to see the stretchy elastic band on the belly of my jeans. Um, no.

    Reply
    • Julie says

      October 9, 2014 at 7:39 pm

      Woa, well that is a unique way to ask to see the bump skin… or stretch marks, or whatever else she was really trying to get a look at.

      Reply
  4. Angela says

    October 4, 2014 at 2:12 pm

    Haha.. the thing is she probably doesn’t even realize she is being offensive. Some people just don’t get it. She might actually think she’s being funny.

    Reply
    • Julie says

      October 4, 2014 at 2:32 pm

      Yea she probably does think she’s being friendly and chatty. Some people really don’t get it, you’re so right.

      Reply
  5. Charlee says

    October 1, 2014 at 9:07 am

    Can you believe the nerve of some people? Sorry you’ve had to deal with those kind of rude, thoughtless comments.

    Reply
    • Julie says

      October 4, 2014 at 9:33 am

      Yea some people definitely need a refresher course in manners heh.

      Reply
  6. Jill @ Do Try This at Home says

    September 30, 2014 at 4:45 pm

    You just reminded me how happy I am not to be pregnant! I LOVE not being pregnant!

    Reply
  7. Veronica says

    September 29, 2014 at 11:22 am

    The thing that drove me crazy was everyone asked “how are you feeling.” Every day, 50 times a day…ok, not 50 but it felt like it! What is a pregnant lady supposed to say to that?! Oh, you know, swollen ankles, back pain, no sleep, constantly have to pee…people don’t want to hear that and I don’t want to tell people about it! Even now that my baby girl is 6 weeks old, I still get worked up thinking about it 😉 Good luck to you 🙂

    Reply
    • Julie says

      October 4, 2014 at 9:26 am

      Oh yea, I’m getting “how are you feeling” a lot at work now. How am I supposed to respond? I’m doing fine. That’s why I’m here today heh.

      Reply
  8. Heather Johnson says

    September 28, 2014 at 9:58 pm

    People are jerks. People are dumb. People are dumb jerks.

    That’s my motto when dealing with people.

    I get similar comments all the time. I have a short torso, so my baby bump really sticks out. I am not due until November, but people like to ask me if I am sure I’m not having twins and tell me that baby will come early. Eye roll.

    Reply
    • Julie says

      October 4, 2014 at 9:22 am

      I’m due in November too, we’re bump buddies! Ok so, is that why I get these comments? Because I also have a short torso. Sometimes I can wear petite shirts. I like your motto 😉

      Reply
      • Heather Johnson says

        October 4, 2014 at 9:26 am

        I wear maternity pants, but I can still wear most of my regular tops because even regular tops are a bit big on me when I’m not pregnant! 🙂

        Reply
  9. Michelle Westbrook says

    September 28, 2014 at 4:18 pm

    I wouldn’t even ask anyone if they were pregnant unless it was obvious. I had a friend who wasn’t pregnant and someone asked her when she was due! That made her feel really good about herself.. not! People just don’t think before they speak sometimes…

    Reply
    • Julie says

      September 28, 2014 at 8:30 pm

      Oh wow that is just the worst! I don’t ever ask someone if they’re pregnant. They can volunteer that information if they like, but wow, way to insult someone huh.

      Reply
  10. Celeste says

    September 27, 2014 at 4:10 pm

    I remember those day, sometimes all you can do is laugh, or share them on a great blog post. lol Congrats on the new baby. 🙂

    Reply
    • Julie says

      September 28, 2014 at 11:23 am

      Thanks 🙂 Yea it is just amazing the kinds of things people think are OK to say out loud.
      Do you have a blog? You didn’t leave a link and I’d love pay a visit 🙂

      Reply
      • Celeste says

        September 29, 2014 at 1:10 am

        Yes, I have a homeschool blog would love for you to stop by its The Education Highway. 🙂

        Reply
  11. Celeste says

    September 27, 2014 at 4:08 pm

    I remember those days, sometimes all you can do is laugh it off. Congrats on the new baby. 🙂

    Reply
  12. Miss Jena says

    September 26, 2014 at 11:15 pm

    OMG, my baby is 2.5 months now but all the dumb things people say when you are pregnant! It is like an indentation to touch, prod, poke and make fun of the slow wobbly lady.

    Reply
    • Julie says

      September 28, 2014 at 11:35 am

      Yea since when is being pregnant an invitation for people to be rude?

      Reply
  13. Erin @ The Speckled Palate says

    September 26, 2014 at 7:15 pm

    As a fellow pregnant lady, I feel you. I’m still early in my pregnancy, so I haven’t gotten any comments like this, but I know they’re coming… and I’m kind of prepared to rip someone a new one if they ask me these questions because, well, they’re rude. And you’re supposed to make pregnant women feel beautiful and not like a house since you should KNOW she probably feels like one…

    People… sigh. I hope it gets better, and I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes along smoothly!

    Reply
    • Julie says

      September 28, 2014 at 11:38 am

      Thanks, and I hope your pregnancy goes smoothly as well and you avoid these stupid comments from well meaning people.

      Reply
  14. MJ @ Daisy & June says

    September 26, 2014 at 9:41 am

    OMG i hate the things that come out of people’s mouths sometimes!

    Reply
    • Julie says

      September 28, 2014 at 8:42 pm

      Yea, I’ll never understand why people think some things are just okay to say to someone.

      Reply
  15. Natalie says

    September 25, 2014 at 8:36 pm

    Oh my gosh! SO INAPPROPRIATE! I don’t know what it is about being pregnant that makes some people think that they are privy to every single thing about your body. Ugh!

    Reply
    • Julie says

      September 28, 2014 at 8:45 pm

      Yea it feels like people think once you’re pregnant no topic is off limits. I’ve never had people say things like that to me before.

      Reply
  16. Lindsey @ Redhead Baby Mama says

    September 25, 2014 at 9:16 am

    Oh yeah, I remember all of those. MY OWN GRANDMOTHER called me “tubby.” Unreal.

    Reply
    • Julie says

      September 29, 2014 at 7:40 pm

      Wow, now you would expect better from family! But, well, maybe not. Everyone’s got an opinion and wants to criticize.

      Reply
  17. Dee says

    September 25, 2014 at 9:04 am

    While I haven’t been preggie to related, but GOODNESS. THOSE ARE TERRIBLE THINGS TO SAY! [CAPS for emphasis on HOW AWFUL THIS LADY IS!] I mean, WHO SAYS THESE THINGS?!?!?! Is she sure she’s got a brain? I didn’t see one!
    Ugh. I even hated the “Guess the mommy-to-be’s waist” game and have no idea why people always like that during showers! Yikes.

    Reply
    • Julie says

      September 29, 2014 at 7:43 pm

      Yea, people don’t seem to use their brains very much. But I hear it gets worse – everyone judges people’s parenting techniques. That game is so common though that I guess it isn’t so bad, but yea not too polite since you’re having people call you big lol.

      Reply
  18. Kita says

    September 25, 2014 at 8:06 am

    If people would just mind their own business my gosh people have no filter. People who have so much to say don’t have enough going on their lives lol

    Reply
    • Julie says

      September 29, 2014 at 7:45 pm

      You know, I think you really have a point there. I’ve got more important things to do than get my nose up in people’s business. But clearly some people don’t, so they make observations and rude comments.

      Reply
  19. Michelle says

    September 25, 2014 at 7:59 am

    After having 4 kiddos, I’ve heard all of those and more…I think people just lack filter when they fell they’re better friends with you than you are with them. You’re handling it beautifully, laughing it off! 🙂

    Reply
    • Julie says

      September 29, 2014 at 7:46 pm

      I like how you put that – when they think they’re better friends with you than you are with them. So true!

      Reply

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