• Start Here
  • Work With Me
  • Parenting
  • Kids Activities
  • Working Moms
  • Productivity Tips
  • Number of items in cart: 0

    • Your cart is empty.
    • Total: $0.00
    • Checkout

Fab Working Mom Life

A Working Mom Blog: Let's thrive as working moms.

  • Blog
  • Motherhood
    • Breastfeeding
    • Parenting
    • Pregnancy
    • Kids Activities
    • Working Mom
  • Lifestyle
    • Finances
    • Food
    • Health
    • Home Life
    • Military
    • Organize
  • Resources
    • Blogging Resources
    • Working Mom Life Resources
  • About
    • About Julie
    • Disclosure Policy
    • Privacy Policy
    • Terms and Conditions
    • Subscribe
  • Work With Me
    • Advertise Here or Hire Me
    • Guest Post Here
    • Link and Image Policy
    • As Seen On
  • Freebies
    • Affirmations for Working Moms
    • Monthly Budget
    • Nanny Interview Questions Checklist
    • Start a Blog? email course
    • Printables
  • Shop
    • Budget Workbook Planner
    • 12 Month Habit Tracker Printable
    • Christmas Games and Planning Printables
    • Nanny Contract Template
    • Baby’s First Year Journal
    • Mind Dump Planner Journal
    • Self-Love Planner for Moms Printable
    • First day of school chalkboard printables
    • My Zazzle Store
    • My Amazon Store
    • Etsy Store

Note: posts contain affiliate links, earning me a commission. By using this site, you agree to our use of browser cookies. Read our disclosure and privacy policies for more details.

8 Tips for Taming Your Unruly Toddler

August 26, 2019 by Julie 13 Comments

If you're new here, you may want to subscribe and join fellow working moms. Thanks for visiting!

A mother’s love for her child is unlimited. But our patience? Well, even the most well-behaved children (aka unicorns aka they don’t really exist) can try a parent’s patience and the strong-willed kids? Well, they test and push our limits to the snapping point. So if you’re wondering how to deal with an unruly toddler, here are some tips!

Survived the first year and now struggling with the terrible twos? Read these 8 Tips for Taming Your Unruly Toddler | Fab Working Mom Life - mom advice #parenting #toddlers #tantrums #behavior #parentingtips #positiveparenting

Try these tips for dealing with toddler misbehavior:

 

Understand why children misbehave.

Children may misbehave when they’re hungry or tired. If you ensure they have eaten adequately and take naps regularly, you may have fewer tantrums to contend with. While this is easier said than done, realizing that a child might be overtired can help us parents deal with unruly behavior.

Children also misbehave when they’re feeling angry or frustrated, especially if they’re told “no.” We don’t want to give them everything they want, whenever they want it. But we do expect that children throw tantrums when they aren’t given their way.

So you might think you’re raising a difficult toddler, but really they’re just young and unable to control their emotions yet. But if you’re wondering about toddler aggression and when to worry about it, do bring up the behavior at your next pediatrician visit.


 

Give your children the attention they deserve.

Often, children misbehave because they’re seeking attention. Since they don’t know the difference between positive and negative attention, they’ll act out when they want you to notice them.

By giving children positive attention, you’ll reduce the tendency for them to act out. Spend as much time as possible with your children to provide plenty of positive attention and fill their bucket, so to speak.

I heard that you need to have five positive interactions for each negative interaction to balance it out. So stack the deck by creating simple fun positive interactions with your child.

Recommended Post:  Highchairs For Babies: Eight Steps To Choosing The Right High Chair

 

Praise positive behavior.

When parents have unruly children, they often focus on punishments and consequences. While you can read a lot about strong-willed child discipline techniques, also remember to balance out the discipline by focusing on positive reinforcement. By praising or rewarding good behavior, you’ll be giving your child the attention they desire while also reinforcing good behavior.

Stick to a routine.

When circumstances are out of the ordinary, children will sometimes act differently. By sticking to a consistent daily routine, you’ll reduce the chances of that happening.

Help your child understand expectations.

 

Set clear boundaries and ensure your child understands the rules.

Set rules and practice with your child following them at home. It’s easier to discipline a child at home when you can take your time and be patient.

If you can get your child to control his or her behaved at home, you’ll have an easier time getting them to do the same in situations outside the home.

 

And if your child has trouble regulating and understanding emotions, this toolkit might help!

The Chaos and the Clutter Teaching Emotions Toolkit

The Emotional Regulation Strategies program includes instruction for parents or teachers on how to teach such things as: Keeping your cool when your child is losing theirs, Emotional planning, Proportionate responses, Calming strategies, Calm down breathing, Identifying and expressing emotions, Underlying emotions, What to do when emotions get too big, Coping strategies and more…Get more information today. {{affiliate link}}

 

Change a child’s behavior by suggesting an alternate activity.

If your child is doing something you don’t want them to do, suggest an activity that’s more acceptable. This is called redirection.  It gives your child something more appropriate to do, and you’ll have corrected the behavior without anyone getting upset.

Give your child choices.

If you let your children choose between two or three different activities, they’re likely to be more cooperative. Providing several choices increases the chances of you suggesting something that they would want to do.

Letting your kids make the decision, rather than just being told what to do, gives them a sense of power.

dealing with unruly toddler behavior

Avoid making empty threats.

If you threaten punishment, you need to be prepared to follow through with it. If you fail to follow through with a threat, your child will learn how to take control of the situation. They’ll learn to wait for you to cave in, so they can get what they want.

Recommended Post:  Social Media Detox: 15 signs you need a social media break right away!

When you follow through with your punishments, your child will learn that there are consequences for failing to follow the rules.

Whenever possible, be sure the consequences happen immediately. Avoid waiting until you get home, two hours later, to give a toddler a timeout. They’ll think they got away with bad behavior earlier, and they won’t understand why they’re being punished later.

Ensure that your consequences are age appropriate. A general rule of thumb is to give a toddler a timeout that lasts for 1 minute for each year of their age. For example, a three-year-old can handle a 3-minute timeout, and a five-year-old can handle one that lasts 5 minutes.

If your toddler is starting to get out of control, stay calm mama and remember these tantrum taming tips. Getting frustrated or angry will only make things worse for both you and your child.  Staying calm and using these strategies to tame your unruly toddler will most likely result in your child learning to behave and cooperate with you.

8 Tips for Taming Your Unruly Toddler | Fab Working Mom Life - mom advice #parenting #toddlers #tantrums #behavior #parentingtips #positiveparenting

 


Want more parenting advice? Check out this amazing Positive Parenting Solutions program!


You may also like:

Gift Ideas and Toys that provide Sensory Input for Hyper kids | Fab Working Mom Life #sensory #adhd #hyper #vestibular #proprioceptive #sensoryinput #sensorytoys #giftguide #giftideas

When Your Hyper Child Just Doesn't Listen, Try This

Join the Working Mom List

Join the Working Mom collective and get support and tools to help you thrive! Subscribers get access to my library of resources and printables.

Thank you for joining the tribe! Now check your email to confirm your subscription.

There was an error submitting your subscription. Please try again.

Powered by ConvertKit

Categories: Parenting, TopPosts Tags: Toddlers

the PAST
the FUTURE

Join the Working Mom List

Join the Working Mom collective and get support and tools to help you thrive! Subscribers get access to my library of resources and printables.

Thank you for joining the tribe! Now check your email to confirm your subscription.

There was an error submitting your subscription. Please try again.

Powered by ConvertKit

Comments

  1. Sarah says

    August 5, 2018 at 2:56 pm

    It’s amazing how just giving them attention can help immensely. Also redirecting them. I use both a lot with my daughter.

    Reply
  2. Toni says

    July 30, 2018 at 12:06 pm

    These are fantastic tips! My two toddler is is quite a determined little girl who does not like to be told “no”. We do a lot of balancing positives and negatives in this house.

    Reply
    • Julie says

      July 30, 2018 at 7:10 pm

      OH yea lots of balancing and power struggles I’m sure!

      Reply
  3. Holly says

    July 30, 2018 at 12:08 am

    I am having a terrible time with my oldest. He is getting such a bad attitude. Thank you for sharing these. It was a good reminder of what I need to do to help him.

    Reply
    • Julie says

      July 30, 2018 at 7:05 pm

      Fist bump mama our feral kids are a handful!

      Reply
  4. Krystal Miller says

    July 29, 2018 at 10:45 pm

    I always wonder why my daughter’s behavior slips when we travel. Then, I remember that we are throwing off her routine. It’s important to keep it in mind and not lose patience.

    Reply
    • Julie says

      July 30, 2018 at 7:05 pm

      Travel is so rough since there’s so much to do and hard to stick to the normal routine

      Reply
  5. Kim says

    July 28, 2018 at 10:33 pm

    Great tips! I think it is so important to understand why kids behave like they do, such as when they are hungry or tired. We need to give them grace when they have human emotions and help them out!

    Reply
    • Julie says

      July 30, 2018 at 5:37 pm

      Truth! Even the feral kids have many reactions that have a reason behind them.

      Reply
  6. Amanda says

    July 28, 2018 at 11:24 am

    Love all of these tips! Routine, setting boundaries, and allowing choices has been a big game changer for us!

    Reply
    • Julie says

      July 30, 2018 at 5:28 pm

      Yes, giving some power where it’s safe can help prevent quite a few meltdowns.

      Reply
  7. Rachel says

    July 25, 2018 at 1:48 pm

    I am a big believer in routines. I stick to them firmly. Even when we are out we leave to be home for bedtime. It’s important. When a parent gives an open threat children learn very quickly that you don’t mean what you say. They will remember that. You don’t want your child thinking you just say anything without meaning it. Words should have meaning behind them. Rachel from https://www.explorekidtalk.com/

    Reply
    • Julie says

      July 25, 2018 at 4:11 pm

      Definitely agree that we have to mean what we say or the double standard will really keep kids from wanting to listen to us

      Reply

Comments are held for moderation. Links are no follow.

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Comments are held for moderation.

About Julie

Julie of Fab Working Mom Life Welcome! My name is Julie :) I am a Texan living in Hawaii (military life). I'm a mom, a blogger, and also work full-time in environmental compliance. I write about being a working mom to help myself and other working moms in our journey to find a balance between our family, responsibilities, and hobbies. I do this because we moms need a support network to thrive both at home and at work.

Follow us

  • mail
  • instagram
  • instagram
  • tiktok
  • twitter
  • pinterest
  • facebook
  • linkedin
  • youtube
  • bloglovin

Note: posts contain affiliate links, earning me a small commission at no additional charge to you. This site uses browser cookies to store information on your computer: some are essential to make this site work, others improve your user experience, and track behavior and user patterns (for advertising purposes). By using this site, you agree to our use of cookies. Read our disclosure and privacy policies for more details.

Join fellow Working Moms

Grab these Affirmations for Working Moms when you Join!

Join the Working Mom List

Join the Working Mom collective and get support and tools to help you thrive! Subscribers get access to my library of resources and printables.

Thank you for joining the tribe! Now check your email to confirm your subscription.

There was an error submitting your subscription. Please try again.

Powered by ConvertKit

Most Popular

Lactation Oatmeal Recipe

Lactation Oatmeal Recipe: How to make Overnight Oatmeal with Lactation Goodness

Tips to Help your Toddler Develop Language Skills

3 ways to get picky eaters to try new foods tall

How to get stubborn picky eaters & toddlers to try new foods in 3 fun ways

Featured Posts

  • Lost in Public? What to do if you get Separated & Your Child Gets Lost
  • Social Media Detox: 15 signs you need a social media break right away!
  • ABCMouse Review: No-guilt Screen Time
  • When Your Hyper Child Just Doesn't Listen, Try This
  • How To Pack School Lunches That Your Kids Will Actually Eat
Christmas gifts guide

Join the Working Mom List

Join the Working Mom collective and get support and tools to help you thrive! Subscribers get access to my library of resources and printables.

Thank you for joining the tribe! Now check your email to confirm your subscription.

There was an error submitting your subscription. Please try again.

Powered by ConvertKit

Fab Working Mom Life Hot Topics

productivity tips for working moms
5-things-you-need-to-know-to-breastfeed-baby-sliderthings-to-do-to-prepare-for-baby-for-first-time-moms-slider

Link to Fab Working Mom Life

Membership


Memberships page.

Join the Working Mom List

Join the Working Mom collective and get support and tools to help you thrive! Subscribers get access to my library of resources and printables.

Thank you for joining the tribe! Now check your email to confirm your subscription.

There was an error submitting your subscription. Please try again.

Powered by ConvertKit
  • Start Here
  • Work With Me
  • Guest Post Here
  • Disclosure Policy
  • Privacy Policy
  • Link and Image Policy

Note: Posts contain affiliate links. Should you choose to purchase a product, I will receive a small commission for the sale at no additional cost to you. Fab Working Mom Life is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites.

Protected by Copyscape
DMCA.com Protection Status
DMCA.com Protection Status

Copyright © 2022 · Fab Working Mom Life· Hello You Designs

Copyright © 2022 · Sweets Blog on Genesis Framework · WordPress · Log in

We use cookies on our website to give you the most relevant experience by remembering your preferences and repeat visits. By clicking “Accept”, you consent to the use of ALL the cookies.
Do not sell my personal information.
Cookie settingsACCEPT
Privacy & Cookies Policy

Privacy Overview

This website uses cookies to improve your experience while you navigate through the website. Out of these cookies, the cookies that are categorized as necessary are stored on your browser as they are essential for the working of basic functionalities of the website. We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. These cookies will be stored in your browser only with your consent. You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. But opting out of some of these cookies may have an effect on your browsing experience.
Necessary
Always Enabled
Necessary cookies are absolutely essential for the website to function properly. This category only includes cookies that ensures basic functionalities and security features of the website. These cookies do not store any personal information.
Non-necessary
Any cookies that may not be particularly necessary for the website to function and is used specifically to collect user personal data via analytics, ads, other embedded contents are termed as non-necessary cookies. It is mandatory to procure user consent prior to running these cookies on your website.
SAVE & ACCEPT