Lost in Public? What to do if you get Separated & Your Child Gets Lost

Planning a family trip is fun and exciting. The whole family gets to go somewhere different and experience a new activity. This event could even be something you and your family look forward to for weeks.

But then something you weren’t expecting happens: someone wanders off and gets lost! No parent ever wants to experience the terror of losing their child in public! But it happens all the time, and kids often wander off. What do you do if you lose your child? Or sometimes, it’s the elderly that wanders off. 

This is why practicing these safety tips in public places is super important to be prepared and know what to do if your child gets lost.

Lost in Public? What to do if a child wanders off

Here’s our story of having someone wander off. Several years ago, over one Labor Day holiday, when I visited my parents in California, we decided to all go to the zoo. This was four adults and two dependents (my toddler and my Grandma). I listed my Grandma as a dependent and not an adult because, well, she’s about as bad as a toddler.

There we were, enjoying a nice day at the zoo, checking out the elephants and giraffes and pointing at the funny monkeys. Then we were looking at the pretty hyenas and discussing whether they were more dogs or cats, and we suddenly realized we were missing a person in our party. No, not my baby boy, but my Grandma had disappeared.

The next hour was stressful and chaotic, but we eventually found Grandma, safe and sound, outside the park. She thought we left without her and went to wait for us in the parking lot. Honestly, it could have been worse. We were concerned she might have gotten on a bus to try to go home. It wouldn’t be the first time.

How to Prepare for a Public Outing in case you get Separated

Having a plan to prepare for and prevent a child from getting lost is so important. Talk with your preschooler so she knows what to do if you get lost or separated from your parents.  Teaching your child what to do if they get lost is a critical step in getting found quickly. 

Have a photo of everyone in the clothing they are wearing that day.

My Dad is Paparazzi when it comes to family photos, so we had not just a recent, but a picture of what my Grandma was wearing that day, hat and all. That helped the park security search for her.

Plan a meeting spot for everyone to gather if someone gets separated.

This is something we failed to do in advance. Even though the rest of the adults assumed we would find her at the entrance (where I waited with my baby while the others ran up and down the park), my Grandma assumed we would find her at the exit. But honestly, why would we leave the park if we got separated inside the park? Have a rendezvous point planned out in advance.

Find a security officer or a police officer to help.

We both did that. My family inside the park contacted the zoo security guard, who started a search. My Grandma, sitting outside in the parking lot, flagged down a police officer who was patrolling the parking lot. The police officer contacted zoo security, and our missing person was returned to us.

Cell phones.

Not everyone has them—for example, my Grandma is just too elderly to learn to use it, even though we tried. But the rest of us had our phones, and when we were split up inside the park doing a search, we were able to check in with each other so we knew where everyone was and their status.

Know phone numbers.

This continues the point above if people do not have cell phones. If your child (or grandparent) can do this, make sure they have key people’s phone numbers memorized. My Grandma did not have my Mom’s number memorized and couldn’t ask someone to call her. If phone numbers are not known as second nature, maybe a business card or a slip of paper in the dependent’s pockets would be a good idea. Or perhaps an “if I am lost” bracelet.

Know names.

While my Grandma didn’t know our phone numbers by heart, she could tell the police officer my Mom’s name.  This is important for children to learn since how often do kids use their parents’ names? The authorities need to know the names of the adults they are looking for.

Frequently Asked Questions about Losing a Child in Public

What to do if a child goes missing? Here’s what to do if your child gets lost.

Start by calling your child’s name and quickly looking around the area high and low. Usually, kids are just out of reach but not too far. But do this step quickly and calmly, and move to the next step if you don’t see your child in the next few minutes. Then, seek help quickly.

A huge tip I have learned is to immediately start loudly calling out a description of the missing child—as loud as you can—so everyone can hear and pass it on. Example: “I’m looking for a child, a 4-year-old boy with brown hair, red shirt, and blue shorts.”  

Find the nearest employee or security guard of the park or attraction where you are. They will initiate their protocol to locate a lost child. If you are unable to find your child after getting separated in a crowd, contact local law enforcement. Don’t wait—time is of the essence with missing children.

What a child should do if they get lost?

Before a public outing, have a family plan you can discuss with your child. If your child gets lost, remind them not to panic and remember a few tips. First, instruct them to stay where they are!

Tell them to find a safe adult—a police officer or a mom with kids—and they will know what to do. 

Teach your kids your name and phone number, or have a bracelet with that information. I have shared some recommendations below.

It is also crucial for your child to remember to call out your real name, not mom or dad.

Why does my 3 year old run away from me?

Toddlers tend to run away from their parents as a way of pushing boundaries and trying to exert their independence. But this behavior is hazardous, and kids can be down the street or in front of a car in a blink.  

Parents can prevent this behavior by giving some power back to the child. Narrating the next step so the child knows what we will be doing helps the transition from one task to the next. Letting the child have a job – like pushing the button in the elevator – and letting them know before we walk to the elevator about that job helps keep their mind on the fun button push.

We can also give a consequence in advance – such as if you cannot walk next to me, I will need to hold your hand tightly.” 

It also helps to give plenty of opportunities for safe running away and running back to make this action not unique or overly exciting. 

What to do if you find a lost child on the street?

If you find a lost child, keep them in the location you found them but in a safer spot (so if they’re in the street, take them to the sidewalk). Don’t move them to a new location because that might make finding them harder for their parents or guardians. They likely got separated recently, and their guardians are close by.

Ask the child if they know their parents’ or guardians’ names and phone numbers and make the call. If the child is too young or doesn’t know the numbers, call the police. If you can’t get ahold of anyone by the numbers the child provides, also call the police. Wait with the child until a police officer or their guardian arrives. 

Being separated from a family member in a public place is not fun. Stressful and unexpected situations teach us many lessons so we can be better prepared in the future. Have you gone through a similar situation? Do you think about how to prevent your child from getting lost?

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A fabulous idea is to get a Reminderband and add a custom message specific to your child. You can put a contact number and a name. You can also specify if a child has autism or allergies. These can also be great party favors!

The lovely folks behind Reminderband sent me a couple of sample bands. I chose to put my son’s name, the names of each parent, and my cell phone number. These bands are fun and cute, and my son loves to wear wristbands, so we’ll put them on him whenever we go out in a crowd.

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Has this ever happened to you? Share your tips for what to do if you lose your child in a public area with us!

 

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A stressful moment, but an important lesson to learn. Now I know how to prepare in advance to avoid losing someone in a public place.