You see her, purse slung over one shoulder and an overstuffed tote slung over another. A squirming child in her arms. Then you realize: you’re seeing a reflection of yourself.
Why does the new title of Mom seem to be synonymous with “bag lady” these days? Babies require a lot of stuff just to get out of the house for a quick grocery run or (if you’re brave) restaurant meal. Juggling a teeny tiny baby and car seat and stroller and bags is an interesting initiation into parenthood.
And really, why do we even call it a diaper bag? Is it just a busy mom diaper bag? It is more like a suitcase of essential emergency preparedness supplies in case zombies attack, or babies poop. We should just refer to it as a mom bag, am I right?
We ended up with two “diaper bags”, mainly because my husband refused to use the “monkey bag” that was gifted to me by his own mother! So he used a tactical backpack instead – which ended up being the main diaper bag because seriously, keeping two bags stocked at all times got old. Since hubby had Fridays off and was taking Baby H to his weekly physical therapy and DOC Band appointments while I didn’t have any time off after returning to work, he won the diaper bag debate.
Newborn Diaper Bag
Itty bitty babies require so much stuff! Here’s a list of the type of things I carried around with me when Baby H was a newborn/infant.
- Several diapers. And extra diapers.
- Wipes.
- Little doggie bags for public diaper disposal. Or storing soiled clothing to bring home for laundry.
- Changing pad.
- Bibs.
- Extra baby clothes. Lots of extra clothes. What is it about spit up or poonamies?
- Extra clothes for me, too, since the poonamies typically happen on me.
- Formula, pre-measured in the awesome disposable containers.
- Baby bottles.
- Water bottles. For making formula but also for my hydration.
- Nipple shield, since I was also breastfeeding.
- Burp cloths.
- Rattles or other toys.
- Pacifiers.
- Dish soap to wash said bottles of formula.
- Mom snacks.
Toddler Diaper Bag
A toddler diaper bag is a bit different than that of a newborn/infant. There’s still a lot to lug around, but you can often get away with leaving it in the car. Here’s what I currently carry for my little man in my diaper bag for toddler.
- Several diapers.
- Wipes.
- Little doggie bags for diaper disposal.
- Changing pad.
- Sippy cup full of water.
- “Scooby snacks”, including crackers and food pouch squeeze packages.
- Extra clothes, because he tends to play hard and get dirty.
- Hat.
- Toys, books.
- Pacifier.
I haven’t reached the potty training stage yet. I am in no hurry for that one. But I imagine my diaper bag of zombie apocalypse will change yet again.
If you’re wondering about the best bags for moms with toddlers, here’s a great website to shop:
What did you pack in your diaper bags? Did it change a lot with each stage?
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Christina says
Your account of having 2 diaper bags is pretty funny. Your husband’s refusal to carry the “monkey bag,” as he calls it, is probably relatable for many fathers.
Trista, Domesticated Momster says
My husband had to buy his own bag as well since he didn’t want to carry around the one that I had picked out. I am long done with diaper bags but the times I do miss diapers is when traveling and we have to stop in a dirty restroom in the middle of nowhere to go pee. Sometimes I just hold my girls and let them squat outside if the bathroom is too bad. Of course my little man can just whip it out wherever. Thanks so much for linking up with #momsterslink :))
Julie says
Oh gosh travel bathrooms aren’t fun. Why can’t everything be like Buc-ees?
You Baby Me Mummy says
This will all be a thing of the past once you have potty trained. I figure we can buy anything that we need desperately and travel much lighter now. Thanks for linking up to #TheList x
Yvonne says
I have to say my bag was pretty much the same when I started potty training, now it just includes travel potty and travel potty bags. Oh and more changes of clothes lol! #thelist
Julie says
The travel potty sounds like a popular suggestion. I’ll have to get one when we reach that stage.
Cassie says
I completely get it! When my daughter was a newborn I would overstuff her bag. We had diapers, wipes, clothes, baby food (once she started eating solids), formula, bottles (which I have already pre-measured the water because it was easy and we were putting Kayro syrup in them for constipation), burp rags (because she was a messy eater), diaper cream, changing pad, spoons, binkys, bibs, toys, tylenol and motrin, and anything else I thought I might need. I also ditched my purse and kept anything I needed in the outside pocket. As she got older we were able to remove a lot of things. Currently at 2 all that I have in the bag is a couple of diapers, wipes, and snacks. She carries around her drink cup. I have a few things I may need in the bag as well. Honestly at this point I leave the bag at home if we are only going to be gone for a couple of hours because we can get away with it. I can’t wait until we are potty trained and don’t have to worry about it any more! After the move, that’s my goal.
Julie says
The potty training phase makes me nervous, but after it is all settled it sounds like things will be so much easier. Until baby #2, of course haha. Then back to a giant suitcase.
Jennifer Kelly says
This is great. But I always tried to simplify my diaper bag as best as possible. We never used a pacifier for any of my children. I cloth diapered the last baby, making changes less frequent therefore only needing to carry one or two diapers along with a few cloth wipes. Always a sippy cup, and maybe a snack, along with the “wet bag” for the diapers. With my now potty training baby let me suggest taking the kiddie potty with you or having one for the car. This way if your wee one has to wee wee, you can just pull over and put the potty in the back if you have an suv or on the ground if you don’t and let them do their business, opposed to having to hurry and pull somewhere that will let them use the bathroom and risk having them make in their pants. Great post! #momsterlink
Julie says
What a great suggestion to keep a spare potty in the car. You’re right, no need to have to search for a bathroom and by then it would be too late.
Tori says
Just wait until your little one is potty trained (don’t rush it though). But then you can actually get away with stuffing a quick change of clothes in your purse and out the door you go!
Julie says
I’m thinking during the potty training process though you’d need to carry A LOT of extras haha
Stefani says
Haha, I’ve never heard of the term “poonamies” before. Definitely going to start using it (though hopefully my two are past the days of those!) Once you potty train, the bag gets easier. I have a backpack for each kid now that I keep in the car, and in the potty trained one it’s just an extra change of clothes and some pull ups. And a plastic bag for wet clothes to be put in. Easy enough!
Julie says
That’s good that it gets easier with every stage – at least to leave the house without being so weighed down haha
Crummy Mummy says
I’m positive I carry around a lot of stuff ‘just in case’ that I never actually use. But if it wasn’t in there I’d probably need it! #thelist
Julie says
The just in case is so right. Yes, the one day you decide to go light, you’ll be kicking yourself hehe
Maria Hughes says
I love this post; the irony is when Lily was a baby I used to think I can’t for her to be a toddler so I dont need to carry around as much; the truth is I now carry changes of clothes (potty training), a large amount of snacks (very hungry caterpillar) and have an unimaginable entourage of toys think prams, car seats, dolls, a picnic chair, balls, Lego set – yes that was just one day out last weekend 🙂
Julie says
Well, the big gear like car seats and strollers was a given from day one – but yea, I do feel like I carry more toys and activities now heh.
Happy Mummy says
I mean toy pram and toy car seat lol I have a doll in her car seat and bring the dolls pram out too ?
Lily still uses her pram too, I usually do multiple trips to/from the car for toys if we’re watching daddy play bowls!
Inez says
I have the diaper bags but I call them doggy bags because… let’s face it, that’s what they are. But my mom hates it that I call them that. haha. I actually don’t even carry a diaper bag. Never have. I’ve thought of putting a bin together for my trunk but so far that hasn’t happened. 🙂 Loved this post!
Julie says
Oh a bin for your trunk is a great idea. I just have bags – several of random grocery variety full of toddler stuff – in my trunk.
MMT says
And then, there is the Bag-almighty for the mother of a toddler and a newborn!! AAARGH! Basically a suitcase…
I just downsized to a rucksack as my youngest is approaching two…time to pack a little lighter!
Thanks for joining in with this weeks #coolmumclub
Julie says
Bag-almighty. LOVE THAT!
Blabbermama says
Great picks on what to pack for diaper bags, so much stuff but everything is necessary! I hate doing the diaper bag clear out though! #momsterslink
Julie says
Ah yes, the cleanout. Keeping it stocked and changed out takes so much time.
Jennifer says
Loved this post! I hadn’t though of using dog bags for when we have to transport a dirty diaper. Good idea!
Julie says
Haha, well the dogs don’t use them since we rarely actually walk them – they roam free in the yard and I don’t bother cleaning my own yard haha. So might as well use the baggies for the poonamies.
Trishawna @mothersrule says
Am with you on calling it a suitcase ?. Good on you and your husband for using two diaper bag before. I only pack one and it can be frustrating especially if i forget something. But thanks for pointing out the difference with toddler vs infant diaper bag. I will need this when my lil man becomes a toddler.
Julie says
It is awesome to not have to carry as much stuff all the time anymore. Though, once we start potty training I can see the amount of stuff increasing again.
Nikki Crump says
I’m a veteran mom and this list came in handy. I was at the store Sunday and I could not remember what do carry in a diaper bag! LOL. I started to Google list but gave up and went home. I will be using your list now!
Julie says
It is interesting how quickly we forget all the stuff we need for infants, huh?
Samantha @ Momma Wants Java says
I was so glad when my kids turned one, and I no longer needed to pack 18 bottles, formula mix, water, bibs, and burp cloths. It’s amazing how much room is in the bag now! Plus when we run errands now, I don’t even take a full diaper bag anymore. I just throw some diapers and wipes in my purse. 🙂
Julie says
Haha same! I’ll have the bag in my car, and just a small makeup bag type bag in my purse with the extra diaper and a small snack container. SO. Much. better!