Mommy guilt is a topic new Moms get familiar with pretty quickly. There is so much we want to do for our child, think we should be doing, and yet aren’t able to for whatever reason. I think we are being unfair to ourselves for allowing ourselves to feel all this guilt.
Tips to fight the Mommy Guilt
- Get out of your own head! Most of the guilt is caused by your own brain over-analyzing things and telling you what you should be doing and comparing it to what you’re not. Let your heart lead, and if your heart is content, shut the brain up.
- Repeat: Good for her, not for me. (Thanks Amy Poehler) A lot of guilt is caused by comparing yourself to others. We’re all different and have different challenges and situations. Let’s not compare ourselves to the moms who appear more put together than we are, and then we won’t feel guilt for any (perceived) shortcomings.
- Think about the Why. Why are you feeling this way? Can you pinpoint a specific cause to your guilt? Sometimes when you acknowledge what is bothering you, the nagging inside our minds goes away.
- Find alternatives. If the nagging does not go away, can we do something else to address the issue? If the underlying cause of the guilt is time away from children while we are at work, we can make the time we spend with them on the weekends extra special and meaningful and maybe take them somewhere new and exciting.
- Forgive yourself. We can’t do it all, we’re just not able to be in all the places all the time. Decisions need to be made for the good of our families and ourselves, and sometimes that may mean letting someone down. Forgive yourself and allow yourself to focus on the good things you’re already doing, instead of dwelling on everything else you may be leaving out.
Has Mommy guilt been a huge burden to you? Share some ways you combat the guilt. What do you feel guilty about?
Now print out this lovely reminder to fight that guilt!
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